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tools in my workshop

Thank you for indulging my last post. I certainly had more than I realized to say on the topic. Now on to more positive things …

Work has been a little different for me this week because I’ve been in workshops. Yesterday’s was “How to Build Trust, Credibility and Respect” and today’s was “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”. Both were outstanding, and I learned a lot about myself and about others. Tomorrow’s will be “Having Difficult Conversations”, which I sorely need.

One of the components of today’s session was the idea of creating a personal mission statement. As I am a fan of lists and words, this sort of enumeration appealed to me deeply, and I look forward to revising my rough first draft.

Re-reading the draft, it’s clear that I want it all, the five out of five instead of the three out of four I once expected. And as I ponder them, cataloging the most important aspects of each, I have a newfound certainty they all will be mine even sooner than I could have hoped.

Surprising many and myself, I’ve been more social in the past few weeks than I have in years. It feels wonderful. My friends are so dear to me, far more than I have previously understood or expressed, and this week’s workshops have underlined their importance to my growth and success.

Also, I’ve realized that continuing my trend toward excessive compromise in my relationships is simply hazardous to my health. My passions and dreams are no less valid than anyone else’s, and I have to stop enabling myself and others to treat them as such. After all, it is my responsibility to care for my well-being, not anyone else’s, just as it is my responsibility to draw and defend clear boundaries of tolerable behavior. I am no victim of circumstance, no hapless fool of fate. What I can control, I will, and what I can’t, I will let go.

So what about you? Tell me one negative pattern in your life you are changing, and the tools you are using to do it.

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