Why I mostly ignore instant messages:
Random Idiot: hey, 24 m in SF here, cute pic on yr profile cygnoir: i’m not single and i’m not looking. Random Idiot: i’m married cygnoir: k, good luck with that. cygnoir clicks the “ignore” button.Usually I don’t respond at all, since it is pointless. One of these losers once argued the ethics of infidelity with me. Yeah, okay, whatever you need to tell yourself so you can look your partner in the face and lie, lie, lie.
Because it bears repeating: there are many random idiots in the world, online and off. You do not owe any one of them your time, patience, respect or kindness. Give those to your friends; give those to yourself.