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three-part messages

This LiveJournal post floored me. I transcribed part of it to an index card I keep in my planner for easy reference:

Three-part messages are not some sort of major philosophical construct -- they're just a tool. Like a hammer, or a pencil. Their purpose is to let you request a change in someone's behavior without triggering the automatic "You can't tell ME what to do!" reaction that hijacks the whole interaction and keeps the person from even hearing the request. Often, if it weren't for that reaction, the person would have no objection at all to making the requested change -- but first it has to be heard and understood. [read more]
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I acknowledge that I live and work on stolen Cowlitz, Clackamas, Atfalati, and Kalapuya land.
I give respect and reverence to those who came before me.

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